Unwritten standards drift. Written ones hold.
Most people can list what they do not want at length and go vague the second the question turns positive. Vague is how you end up somewhere you did not choose.
Write it in plain language: how you want to be spoken to, what a good Sunday looks like, what you will not negotiate.
Whether you are single or twenty years in, the page is useful. It tells you what to ask for.
How to actually do it
- 01One page, handwritten, no editing on the first pass.
- 02Separate the non-negotiables from the preferences.
- 03Re-read it in three months and see what changed.
You already know if this is the one. Go put a date on it.
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