Not what is wrong. What they need more of. Different question, better answer.
'What's wrong' invites defence. 'What do you need more of lately' invites an honest, forward-facing answer that is easy to act on.
Ask it when nothing is on fire, ideally on a walk or a drive rather than across a table.
Then pick one thing from the answer and change it this week, visibly.
How to actually do it
- 01Ask it on a calm day, not during a disagreement.
- 02Listen without offering a counter-list.
- 03Act on one item within the week.
You already know if this is the one. Go put a date on it.
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